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“It’s easy to point out the flaws and imperfections present all around us. It’s much more difficult to look inward and decide to change ourselves. The first step is always your own.”
A Leader can Make or Break a Team … Be an Effective Leader
I have been a leader since I was a little girl. I remember being a Hall Monitor in elementary school and providing conflict resolution as if I knew it at that age. I have been a professional leader for the last eleven years, and over the years, my leadership style has changed. The way I support individuals has changed. While the work must be done, people are people, and they deserve to be treated with empathy, dignity, and respect always and still be held accountable in the process.
An effective leader understands that you cannot lead each person in the same manner, and what works with one person may not work with the next person.
Manifestation
At the beginning of each year, we write down our "New Year Resolutions," some of us will stick with them, and others write them down and never look back at them. This year I am challenging you to take your resolutions to the next level. This year I am challenging you to look at your life and "Manifest" what you are looking for in 2021.
Words Matter
Growing up as a kid we may have said some things that were nice, and we may have heard some not so nice things. We have all had our feelings hurt by the things that may have been said to us and at times we snapped back in defense. There may have been other moments when the words hit so deep, we still carry the wound.
Decision Making
When I was a child, I was eager to grow up and make my own decisions. As an adult, I thought hmmm… maybe being a child was easier because there were less responsibilities. As a child, responsibilities and decision-making was related to:
· When to do homework?
· What to wear?
· When is a good time to ask for spending money to hang out with friends?
· To get a job or not
Forgiveness is for the Forgiver
“Forgiveness is not forgetting or walking away from accountability or condoning a hurtful act: it’s the process of taking back and healing our lives so we can truly live”
Brene’ Brown
Growing up without my mom and dad being active parents in my life, I questioned how they could abandon their children. Although my mother did not raise me, she would pop in sporadically. On the other hand, my father did not come around often at all. Questioning my parents love and loyalty, mentally had me in a place of dislike and unforgiveness of them as I grew older and better understood their actions.
From Foster Care to Social Worker
I remember this experience like it was yesterday: there was a lump in my throat and butterflies in my stomach as I was being told that I would be living with my grandmother whom I love dearly.